"It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them"
- Anthony Storr
About this Quote
This quote by Anthony Storr suggests that in order to have a significant relationship with somebody, we must initially be able to exist without them. We need to have the ability to be independent and not depend on them for our happiness or sense of security. When we have the ability to be content and fulfilled without them, then we can really value and take pleasure in the relationship. This is because we are no longer dependent on them for our psychological requirements, and instead can focus on the favorable elements of the relationship. We can be more open and truthful with them, and be more going to compromise and collaborate. This quote emphasizes the importance of being able to be independent and self-dependent in order to have a healthy and significant relationship with somebody.
This quote is written / told by Anthony Storr between May 8, 1920 and March 17, 2001. He/she was a famous Author from England.
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