"Some people can get away with being very sexy to men and not looking like a complete cow, but I didn't think I was in a position where people knew me well enough"

In this quote, singer Sophie Ellis Bextor is discussing the social expectations and pressures put on females to be both appealing and pleasant. She acknowledges that some ladies have the ability to be perceived as attractive by males without being judged or slammed, however she personally does not feel that she remains in a position where she can do the very same. Bextor may be expressing her own insecurities and the worry of being judged by others based upon her appearance. This quote highlights the double standards and unfair expectations placed on women in terms of their physical look.