"In my thirties, I felt I had hold of one of the reins some of the time"

This quote by Chaka Khan speaks to the concept of getting control over one's life. In her thirties, Khan felt that she had a handle on a few of the elements of her life. This might mean that she had a much better understanding of her goals and ambitions, and was able to make choices that would help her accomplish them. It might also mean that she had a better understanding of her relationships and had the ability to make decisions that would help her maintain them. In either case, Khan was able to take control of her life and make decisions that would assist her reach her goals. This quote speaks with the idea that, with age, comes knowledge and the capability to make choices that will help us reach our objectives.