"A good man often appears gauche simply because he does not take advantage of the myriad mean little chances of making himself look stylish. Preferring truth to form, he is not constantly at work upon the facade of his appearance"
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The line works because it flips a common assumption. We’re trained to see polish as competence and ease as authenticity. Morissette argues the opposite: the person who seems ungraceful may be the one least invested in performance. “Preferring truth to form” is a quiet rebuke to a culture that treats form as the whole point. The subtext is almost combative: if you’re constantly curating, you’re not just managing perception; you’re practicing small betrayals, sanding down reality until it photographs well.
Coming from a musician whose career has been entangled with public narration - confessional songwriting, tabloid simplifications, the pressure to be a “type” - the quote reads like a defense of rough edges. It also nods to a ’90s-into-now sensibility: sincerity as a scarce resource in an attention economy. The “facade” isn’t only vanity; it’s labor. Morissette is praising the man who doesn’t clock in for it, even if he looks a little wrong in the room.
Quote Details
| Topic | Honesty & Integrity |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Morissette, Alanis. (2026, January 17). A good man often appears gauche simply because he does not take advantage of the myriad mean little chances of making himself look stylish. Preferring truth to form, he is not constantly at work upon the facade of his appearance. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-good-man-often-appears-gauche-simply-because-he-40260/
Chicago Style
Morissette, Alanis. "A good man often appears gauche simply because he does not take advantage of the myriad mean little chances of making himself look stylish. Preferring truth to form, he is not constantly at work upon the facade of his appearance." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-good-man-often-appears-gauche-simply-because-he-40260/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"A good man often appears gauche simply because he does not take advantage of the myriad mean little chances of making himself look stylish. Preferring truth to form, he is not constantly at work upon the facade of his appearance." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-good-man-often-appears-gauche-simply-because-he-40260/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.









