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"A good motto is: use friendliness but do not use your friends"

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Frank Crane slips a moral razor into a pocket-sized slogan. "Use friendliness" treats warmth as a practice, almost a tool: something you can deploy deliberately in daily life to smooth friction, build trust, and keep the social machinery from grinding. Then he slams the brakes: "but do not use your friends". Same verb, different object, sudden ethical line. The motto works because it admits a truth most etiquette advice tries to deny: social life is transactional all the time. Crane isn't pretending we can be pure, unstrategic souls; he's insisting we choose where the strategy stops.

The subtext is a warning about the seductions of instrumental thinking. Friendliness can be method without being a con. It can be the open hand that makes communities possible. But friendships, for Crane, are not resources to be mined. When you start tallying favors, networking opportunities, and introductions as if people were coins in your pocket, you haven't just behaved badly - you've quietly rewritten what friendship is for.

As a clergyman writing in an era when civic clubs, business boosterism, and self-improvement literature were intertwining, Crane is pushing back against the early 20th-century drift toward social efficiency. He's offering an ethic meant to survive modern hustle: be socially skilled, yes, but keep one sacred category where love and loyalty aren't leveraged. The line lands because it anticipates the contemporary anxiety about "networking" swallowing the last honest forms of care.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Crane, Frank. (n.d.). A good motto is: use friendliness but do not use your friends. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-good-motto-is-use-friendliness-but-do-not-use-59992/

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Crane, Frank. "A good motto is: use friendliness but do not use your friends." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-good-motto-is-use-friendliness-but-do-not-use-59992/.

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"A good motto is: use friendliness but do not use your friends." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-good-motto-is-use-friendliness-but-do-not-use-59992/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.

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