"A home-made friend wears longer than one you buy in the market"
About this Quote
The intent is less sentimental than corrective. O'Malley isn't praising rustic simplicity; he's warning against the social marketplace where introductions, favors, and networking lubricate access. A "market" friend is real enough, but contingent: on usefulness, proximity, reputation, the unspoken contract of mutual advantage. The subtext is about labor. "Home-made" implies you paid in time, vulnerability, and forgiveness rather than money or social capital. That kind of investment creates a durability that can't be shortcut.
The context matters: late 19th and early 20th century professional life was consolidating into institutions, clubs, cities, and career ladders - fertile ground for performative camaraderie. As a physicist moving through credentialed worlds, O'Malley would have seen how quickly "friendly" can become strategic. The proverb lands because it refuses to romanticize friendship as a feeling; it frames it as craftsmanship, and craftsmanship has telltale signs that can't be faked.
Quote Details
| Topic | Fake Friends |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
O'Malley, Austin. (2026, January 17). A home-made friend wears longer than one you buy in the market. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-home-made-friend-wears-longer-than-one-you-buy-28033/
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O'Malley, Austin. "A home-made friend wears longer than one you buy in the market." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-home-made-friend-wears-longer-than-one-you-buy-28033/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"A home-made friend wears longer than one you buy in the market." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-home-made-friend-wears-longer-than-one-you-buy-28033/. Accessed 10 Feb. 2026.






