"A lot of people say they want to get out of pain, and I'm sure that's true, but they aren't willing to make healing a high priority. They aren't willing to look inside to see the source of their pain in order to deal with it"
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The subtext is almost confrontational in its tenderness. She’s describing pain not as a badge or a tragedy but as a signal with an origin story. “Make healing a high priority” implies trade-offs: setting boundaries, leaving familiar chaos, giving up certain narratives about who’s to blame, and maybe even relinquishing the identity that comes with being hurt. Healing becomes work, not vibes.
Context matters: Wagner isn’t a politician or a therapist selling a program; she’s a pop-cultural figure associated with strength and resilience (and, for many, a certain 1970s self-improvement zeitgeist). That makes the line feel less clinical and more lived-in, like advice earned in private rather than announced from a podium.
What makes it effective is its moral reframe. She doesn’t shame pain; she interrogates avoidance. “Look inside” is a deceptively simple directive, but it names the real fear: not that we’ll find nothing, but that we’ll find something we’re responsible for facing.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Wagner, Lindsay. (2026, January 17). A lot of people say they want to get out of pain, and I'm sure that's true, but they aren't willing to make healing a high priority. They aren't willing to look inside to see the source of their pain in order to deal with it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-lot-of-people-say-they-want-to-get-out-of-pain-69998/
Chicago Style
Wagner, Lindsay. "A lot of people say they want to get out of pain, and I'm sure that's true, but they aren't willing to make healing a high priority. They aren't willing to look inside to see the source of their pain in order to deal with it." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-lot-of-people-say-they-want-to-get-out-of-pain-69998/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"A lot of people say they want to get out of pain, and I'm sure that's true, but they aren't willing to make healing a high priority. They aren't willing to look inside to see the source of their pain in order to deal with it." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-lot-of-people-say-they-want-to-get-out-of-pain-69998/. Accessed 6 Feb. 2026.






