"A lover without indiscretion is no lover at all"
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The sentence works because it turns a vice into a credential. “Indiscretion” is a wonderfully slippery choice: it can mean an affair, a reckless confession, a breach of decorum, even the simple crime of wanting too much. By refusing to specify, Hardy smuggles in a whole spectrum of transgression while keeping plausible deniability. That ambiguity mirrors his novels, where passion rarely arrives as a clean, modern self-actualization story; it arrives as an event that exposes how brittle “good” behavior can be when it’s mostly performance.
Context matters: Hardy wrote in a culture obsessed with propriety, reputation, and female “purity” as public property. In that world, discretion isn’t just politeness; it’s survival. So the subtext bites: if your love never threatens your standing, never tempts you into some breach of the rules, maybe it’s not love you’re practicing but compliance. Hardy’s fatalism lurks behind the bravado. Indiscretion doesn’t merely prove love; it also predicts its price.
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| Topic | Romantic |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Hardy, Thomas. (2026, January 18). A lover without indiscretion is no lover at all. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-lover-without-indiscretion-is-no-lover-at-all-3164/
Chicago Style
Hardy, Thomas. "A lover without indiscretion is no lover at all." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-lover-without-indiscretion-is-no-lover-at-all-3164/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"A lover without indiscretion is no lover at all." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-lover-without-indiscretion-is-no-lover-at-all-3164/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.













