"A major advantage of age is learning to accept people without passing judgment"
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There is a quiet provocation in Carpenter framing nonjudgment as a perk you earn with time, like better sleep or sharper priorities. She’s not romanticizing age; she’s selling it as a hard-won upgrade in perception. “Major advantage” reads like a line from someone who has watched youth burn energy on verdicts that change nothing. It’s pragmatic, even a little mischievous: if aging takes things away, it also takes away the need to audition for moral superiority.
The subtext is less “be nicer” than “stop treating other people as a referendum on you.” Passing judgment often functions as self-defense, a way to shore up identity by policing someone else’s choices. Carpenter suggests the opposite happens with maturity: you realize how partial your information is, how tangled people’s motives are, how often you’ve been wrong. Acceptance here isn’t approval; it’s the discipline of letting complexity stand without immediately converting it into a sentence.
Context matters. Carpenter worked in politics and public life, worlds built on evaluation, reputations, and the addictive certainty of sides. A woman navigating mid-century Washington also knows what it feels like to be assessed on sight, to be reduced to a type. Her line reads as a refusal of that flattening logic. It’s an ethic that doubles as a survival tactic: you can’t stay functional, curious, or humane if you’re constantly running a courtroom in your head.
The subtext is less “be nicer” than “stop treating other people as a referendum on you.” Passing judgment often functions as self-defense, a way to shore up identity by policing someone else’s choices. Carpenter suggests the opposite happens with maturity: you realize how partial your information is, how tangled people’s motives are, how often you’ve been wrong. Acceptance here isn’t approval; it’s the discipline of letting complexity stand without immediately converting it into a sentence.
Context matters. Carpenter worked in politics and public life, worlds built on evaluation, reputations, and the addictive certainty of sides. A woman navigating mid-century Washington also knows what it feels like to be assessed on sight, to be reduced to a type. Her line reads as a refusal of that flattening logic. It’s an ethic that doubles as a survival tactic: you can’t stay functional, curious, or humane if you’re constantly running a courtroom in your head.
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| Topic | Aging |
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