"A man can't be too careful in the choice of his enemies"
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The subtext is pure Wildean social physics. Victorian respectability ran on polite consensus and quiet coercion. To have an enemy wasn’t just to be disliked; it was to have disrupted the smooth machinery of reputation. Wilde’s wit suggests that conflict, properly selected, can be more clarifying than companionship. An enemy with taste implies you’re playing in the right league; a petty enemy implies you’ve mismanaged your audience. It’s status anxiety rendered as epigram.
There’s also a defensive glint. Wilde lived in a culture where scandal wasn’t gossip; it was a legal and economic weapon. Choosing enemies carefully is survival advice disguised as champagne comedy: don’t pick fights you can’t afford, don’t underestimate the vindictive dullness of the powerful, don’t hand your narrative to people who will weaponize it. The joke lands because it pretends to celebrate rivalry, while quietly diagnosing how public life turns taste into combat and attention into risk.
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