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Life & Wisdom Quote by Francois de La Rochefoucauld

"A man is sometimes as different from himself as he is from others"

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Identity, in La Rochefoucauld's hands, is less a solid core than a rotating cast of motives. "A man is sometimes as different from himself as he is from others" lands with the cool menace of a mirror held at an unflattering angle: the real strangeness isn’t that we misunderstand each other, but that we routinely fail to coincide with our own self-image.

The line works because it collapses a comforting hierarchy. We like to believe the self is the one stable reference point and everyone else is the variable. La Rochefoucauld flips it: the gap between my Monday convictions and my Friday compromises can be as wide as the gap between me and a stranger. The understated "sometimes" is doing surgical work here. He’s not claiming permanent incoherence; he’s pointing to those moments when circumstance, vanity, fear, desire, or ambition quietly swaps out the person we thought we were. The comparison to "others" sharpens the insult: your inconsistency isn’t a quirky internal nuance; it’s radical enough to make you your own outsider.

Context matters. Writing in the orbit of the French court and salon culture, La Rochefoucauld observed a society built on performance, reputation, and strategic self-presentation. His aphorisms are compact because court truths had to be portable and deniable. The subtext is moral, but not pious: self-knowledge is fragile, and sincerity is often just another costume we wear when it flatters us. In a world of masks, he suggests, the most convincing mask might be the one we call "me."

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Francois de La Rochefoucauld

Francois de La Rochefoucauld (September 15, 1613 - March 17, 1680) was a Writer from France.

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