"A man is sometimes as different from himself as he is from others"
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La Rochefoucauld points to a dizzying truth: a person can be as estranged from himself as he is from strangers. The self is not a monolith but a shifting composite, altered by mood, fortune, desire, fear, and the roles we play. He spent his life in the volatile court and salons of 17th-century France, surviving the Fronde and watching loyalties and convictions morph with circumstance. From that vantage he distrusted the idea of a stable, transparent character. Our virtues, he suggests, often ride on the back of self-love, and when our interests or passions change, so do we.
The observation carries two edges. One cuts through our confidence in self-knowledge. We think we know what we would do in love or danger, yet faced with real stakes we become someone else: bolder than expected, or suddenly timid; generous in theory, calculating in practice. The other edge undermines complacent moral judgment of others. If people are fragmented by context, we should expect inconsistency rather than treat it as hypocrisy alone. Constancy, then, is not a given; it is a hard-won discipline.
His insight anticipates modern psychology. Situationism shows how powerfully context shapes conduct, while self-discrepancy theory describes the gap between the person we are, the person we think we are, and the person we aspire to be. Daily life makes this visible: we switch between the self at work, at home, online, and alone, each with its own tone and temptations. The masks we wear are not merely theatrical; over time they imprint the face.
The maxim is not an excuse for fickleness but a caution to practice humility and vigilance. If we are sometimes as different from ourselves as from others, then self-examination must be continuous, and commitments buttressed by habits that hold when feelings shift. The aim is not to freeze the self, but to integrate it, so that the person who appears in changing weather remains recognizably one.
The observation carries two edges. One cuts through our confidence in self-knowledge. We think we know what we would do in love or danger, yet faced with real stakes we become someone else: bolder than expected, or suddenly timid; generous in theory, calculating in practice. The other edge undermines complacent moral judgment of others. If people are fragmented by context, we should expect inconsistency rather than treat it as hypocrisy alone. Constancy, then, is not a given; it is a hard-won discipline.
His insight anticipates modern psychology. Situationism shows how powerfully context shapes conduct, while self-discrepancy theory describes the gap between the person we are, the person we think we are, and the person we aspire to be. Daily life makes this visible: we switch between the self at work, at home, online, and alone, each with its own tone and temptations. The masks we wear are not merely theatrical; over time they imprint the face.
The maxim is not an excuse for fickleness but a caution to practice humility and vigilance. If we are sometimes as different from ourselves as from others, then self-examination must be continuous, and commitments buttressed by habits that hold when feelings shift. The aim is not to freeze the self, but to integrate it, so that the person who appears in changing weather remains recognizably one.
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