"A man who's never seen war is like a woman who's never given birth - soft in the head"
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The comparison is deliberately obscene in its certainty. War and childbirth are treated as parallel rites of passage, experiences that supposedly grant access to reality. Platonov yokes the masculine state project (war) to the feminine biological ordeal (birth), collapsing two kinds of suffering into one civic ledger: pain as proof of legitimacy. The sting is in “soft in the head,” a phrase that turns psychological complexity into a punchline. It signals how authoritarian cultures police inner life: if you haven’t been initiated by catastrophe, your thoughts don’t count.
Context matters because Platonov wrote amid relentless mobilization and enforced “heroism.” In that environment, war isn’t just an event; it’s a sorting mechanism, a way to rank citizens by proximity to sanctioned trauma. The line performs that logic while also indicting it. Its cruelty mimics the regime’s emotional vocabulary, where empathy reads as weakness and innocence as stupidity. The subtext is bleak: when a society makes violence the teacher, it must also make tenderness a kind of illiteracy.
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Platonov, Andrei. (2026, January 18). A man who's never seen war is like a woman who's never given birth - soft in the head. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-man-whos-never-seen-war-is-like-a-woman-whos-15320/
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Platonov, Andrei. "A man who's never seen war is like a woman who's never given birth - soft in the head." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-man-whos-never-seen-war-is-like-a-woman-whos-15320/.
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"A man who's never seen war is like a woman who's never given birth - soft in the head." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-man-whos-never-seen-war-is-like-a-woman-whos-15320/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.








