"A mother's life, you see, is one long succession of dramas, now soft and tender, now terrible. Not an hour but has its joys and fears"
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The pivot - "now soft and tender, now terrible" - is doing moral and emotional work. Balzac doesn't let "tender" settle into virtue-signaling; he immediately yokes it to the possibility of catastrophe. That pairing exposes the subtext most polite language skirts: love is an accelerant for fear. The more you care, the more the world can hurt you, hourly. His blunt timekeeping - "Not an hour" - intensifies it. Motherhood becomes a schedule of micro-reckonings, where joy is real but never unaccompanied, and fear isn't hysteria but information.
Context matters: Balzac is writing in a 19th-century France that idealized maternity as a civic duty and a moral ornament, even as mothers had limited legal power, high child mortality, and punishing social scrutiny. Against that backdrop, this sentence is almost insurgent. It grants mothers interior complexity and acknowledges the volatility of care, turning what society treated as a stable role into an unstable, relentless lived experience.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Balzac, Honore de. (2026, January 18). A mother's life, you see, is one long succession of dramas, now soft and tender, now terrible. Not an hour but has its joys and fears. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-mothers-life-you-see-is-one-long-succession-of-4187/
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Balzac, Honore de. "A mother's life, you see, is one long succession of dramas, now soft and tender, now terrible. Not an hour but has its joys and fears." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-mothers-life-you-see-is-one-long-succession-of-4187/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"A mother's life, you see, is one long succession of dramas, now soft and tender, now terrible. Not an hour but has its joys and fears." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-mothers-life-you-see-is-one-long-succession-of-4187/. Accessed 6 Feb. 2026.







