"A successful woman preacher was once asked what special obstacles have you met as a woman in the ministry? Not one, she answered, except the lack of a minister's wife"
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A single punchline exposes an entire job description no one admits is in the contract. Anna Garlin Spencer’s anecdote lands because it refuses the usual script of “barriers” and “bias” and instead points to something more mundane and more corrosive: institutional life is built around invisible labor. The woman preacher’s “obstacle” isn’t theology or talent; it’s the missing support system that male ministers quietly inherit through marriage.
The line works like a trapdoor. The question expects a tale of overt sexism. The answer swerves to domestic logistics, and that swerve is the critique: patriarchy doesn’t just block women at the door, it furnishes men with a backstage crew. “The lack of a minister’s wife” is shorthand for a whole unpaid portfolio - social hosting, emotional triage, community glue work, the gentle diplomacy that keeps congregational politics from turning into open revolt. A “successful” woman can preach, counsel, organize, lead; she’s still penalized for not having a spouse assigned to launder the job’s soft edges.
Spencer, writing in a period when women were pressing into public roles while being told their “proper sphere” was the home, captures a transitional hypocrisy. The ministry prides itself on moral seriousness, yet it runs on gendered expectations so normal they’re mistaken for nature. The joke isn’t just funny; it’s surgical, revealing that equality isn’t only about letting women do men’s work. It’s about redistributing the hidden work men were never asked to name, let alone do.
The line works like a trapdoor. The question expects a tale of overt sexism. The answer swerves to domestic logistics, and that swerve is the critique: patriarchy doesn’t just block women at the door, it furnishes men with a backstage crew. “The lack of a minister’s wife” is shorthand for a whole unpaid portfolio - social hosting, emotional triage, community glue work, the gentle diplomacy that keeps congregational politics from turning into open revolt. A “successful” woman can preach, counsel, organize, lead; she’s still penalized for not having a spouse assigned to launder the job’s soft edges.
Spencer, writing in a period when women were pressing into public roles while being told their “proper sphere” was the home, captures a transitional hypocrisy. The ministry prides itself on moral seriousness, yet it runs on gendered expectations so normal they’re mistaken for nature. The joke isn’t just funny; it’s surgical, revealing that equality isn’t only about letting women do men’s work. It’s about redistributing the hidden work men were never asked to name, let alone do.
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