"A woman can look both moral and exciting... if she also looks as if it was quite a struggle"
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That “quite a struggle” is doing all the work. It’s not describing private virtue so much as public choreography: the visible strain that reassures onlookers you didn’t want pleasure too much. Ferber is skewering the demand for women to advertise internal conflict as proof of character. Enjoyment alone is suspicious; enjoyment with guilt becomes respectable. You can be alluring, but only if you appear to be resisting your own allure.
The subtext is less about individual morality than about an audience trained to reward self-denial. In a culture where women’s desirability is constantly appraised, the “struggle” becomes a costume - a way to launder sexuality through virtue signaling. Ferber, a novelist attuned to social scripts and the economics of reputation, is also winking at how class and performance intersect: looking like you wrestled with temptation suggests you had options, standards, something to lose.
Written from the vantage point of early-to-mid 20th-century America, the line lands as both critique and survival note: the tightrope isn’t natural; it’s engineered, and women are expected to make the balancing act look like integrity.
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"A woman can look both moral and exciting... if she also looks as if it was quite a struggle." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-woman-can-look-both-moral-and-exciting-if-she-58191/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.










