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Leadership Quote by Abraham Lincoln

"A woman is the only thing I am afraid of that I know will not hurt me"

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Fear, in Lincoln's hands, becomes a kind of flirtation with conscience. The line turns on a paradox: he admits fear of women while insisting they "will not hurt" him. That contradiction is the whole mechanism. It frames feminine power as nonviolent yet still destabilizing, the sort of force that can make a man fumble his certainties without laying a finger on him. For a politician who lived by persuasion and pressure, it's telling that the threat he names isn't physical harm but moral and emotional exposure.

The intent reads as disarming self-deprecation, a social wink that lets him appear humble, human, and safely heterosexual in a culture where male public figures performed toughness as a civic duty. Yet the subtext is sharper: the only fear that feels permissible to confess is fear of being judged by someone whose leverage is intimate rather than institutional. Women in Lincoln's America were largely shut out of formal politics, but they weren't absent from power. They shaped reputations, regulated social standing, steered households, and served as the audience a man's character had to survive.

Context matters: Lincoln's public persona mixed frontier plainspokenness with a lawyer's calibration, and his private life included a famously formidable partner in Mary Todd Lincoln. The quote channels that nineteenth-century dynamic where women were idealized as morally superior, then recast as intimidating precisely because of that supposed purity. It's not feminist, exactly; it sentimentalizes and stereotypes. But it also accidentally admits something modern: authority isn't only the fist or the law. Sometimes it's the look that sees through you.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lincoln, Abraham. (2026, January 14). A woman is the only thing I am afraid of that I know will not hurt me. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-woman-is-the-only-thing-i-am-afraid-of-that-i-24752/

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Lincoln, Abraham. "A woman is the only thing I am afraid of that I know will not hurt me." FixQuotes. January 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-woman-is-the-only-thing-i-am-afraid-of-that-i-24752/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"A woman is the only thing I am afraid of that I know will not hurt me." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-woman-is-the-only-thing-i-am-afraid-of-that-i-24752/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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