"A woman who looks like a girl and thinks like a man is the best sort, the most enjoyable to be and the most pleasurable to have and to hold"
About this Quote
The real tell is the pivot from “to be” to “to have and to hold.” Even the fantasy of selfhood is quickly absorbed into possession. Burchill, a journalist notorious for provocation, is likely not naively endorsing this so much as staging the ugliness of it: how modern sexism survives by disguising itself as taste, preference, even liberation. It’s the logic of the “cool girl” before that phrase had currency: be youthful but not needy, smart but not intimidating, sexually available but not complicated, basically one of the guys while still looking like a girl.
Context matters: Burchill emerged from a British media culture that rewarded barbed generalizations and a punkish contempt for piety. The quote works because it’s brisk, brazen, and syntactically seductive; it also curdles on reread, revealing a worldview where women are optimized, ranked, and ultimately handled.
Quote Details
| Topic | Romantic |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Burchill, Julie. (2026, January 16). A woman who looks like a girl and thinks like a man is the best sort, the most enjoyable to be and the most pleasurable to have and to hold. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-woman-who-looks-like-a-girl-and-thinks-like-a-118505/
Chicago Style
Burchill, Julie. "A woman who looks like a girl and thinks like a man is the best sort, the most enjoyable to be and the most pleasurable to have and to hold." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-woman-who-looks-like-a-girl-and-thinks-like-a-118505/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"A woman who looks like a girl and thinks like a man is the best sort, the most enjoyable to be and the most pleasurable to have and to hold." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-woman-who-looks-like-a-girl-and-thinks-like-a-118505/. Accessed 24 Feb. 2026.










