"A woman's best love letters are always written to the man she is betraying"
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The subtext is psychologically sharp. To betray someone is to split the self: the body goes one way, the story must go another. The "best" letters are written when the stakes are highest, when language has to do heavy lifting - soothing suspicion, restoring a bruised moral ledger, reasserting control. Durrell implies that sincerity can be intensified by wrongdoing; not because the betrayer is suddenly more honest, but because they need the beloved to remain intact as an audience. The partner being betrayed is also the partner who must be kept.
Context matters: Durrell's fiction, especially The Alexandria Quartet, thrives on erotic entanglement, shifting loyalties, and the idea that truth is a series of stylish narratives we tell to survive desire. This line fits that worldview: intimacy as theater, virtue as rhetoric. It also carries a gendered provocation typical of mid-century male literary cynicism - "a woman" as type, not person - using femininity as a vessel for a broader claim about how romantic language often functions: less as confession than as cover story.
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| Topic | Betrayal |
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Durrell, Lawrence. (2026, January 15). A woman's best love letters are always written to the man she is betraying. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-womans-best-love-letters-are-always-written-to-7543/
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Durrell, Lawrence. "A woman's best love letters are always written to the man she is betraying." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-womans-best-love-letters-are-always-written-to-7543/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"A woman's best love letters are always written to the man she is betraying." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-womans-best-love-letters-are-always-written-to-7543/. Accessed 25 Feb. 2026.









