"Absence from those we love is self from self - a deadly banishment"
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The subtext is relational and unsettlingly modern. We like to think of the self as a sealed unit with optional attachments. Shakespeare flips that: the beloved is not an accessory but a constitutive part of the person you are. Remove them and you don’t merely miss someone; you become a stranger to yourself, forced to inhabit a version of life that no longer fits. The phrase "deadly banishment" sharpens the claim with legal and political menace. Banishment is a punishment imposed by authority, and "deadly" suggests not only emotional devastation but social death: exile from the world where your name, role, and meaning made sense.
Contextually, this is prime Shakespearean logic: private feeling is staged in the vocabulary of state power. His plays are full of forced departures, estrangements, and lovers turned refugees by feud, war, or court intrigue. By framing absence as exile, he makes desire a civic condition and turns romance into a question of survival. The line works because it refuses consolation. It insists that love rewires the self so completely that distance becomes a kind of internal civil war.
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| Topic | Long-Distance Relationship |
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Shakespeare, William. (2026, January 15). Absence from those we love is self from self - a deadly banishment. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/absence-from-those-we-love-is-self-from-self-a-25046/
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Shakespeare, William. "Absence from those we love is self from self - a deadly banishment." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/absence-from-those-we-love-is-self-from-self-a-25046/.
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"Absence from those we love is self from self - a deadly banishment." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/absence-from-those-we-love-is-self-from-self-a-25046/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.











