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Love Quote by Roger de Rabutin

"Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great"

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Wind doesn’t politely “test” a flame; it judges it. Roger de Rabutin’s line turns absence from a sentimental inconvenience into a ruthless element: distance is the atmosphere in which love either dies quickly or burns cleaner. The image works because it refuses the modern comfort of thinking love is always softened by longing. Instead, Rabutin offers a severer metric. If affection is “small” - more habit than hunger, more convenience than conviction - absence starves it of daily fuel and it goes out. If love is “great,” absence becomes oxygen: it sharpens desire, concentrates attention, and turns imagination into tinder.

The subtext is partly self-protective. In an aristocratic 17th-century world of arranged matches, court flirtations, and long separations (war, exile, travel), absence wasn’t an exception; it was the operating condition. Rabutin frames that reality as a clarifying force. Don’t trust proximity; trust what survives removal. It’s a neat emotional audit: remove the person and see what remains, not in principle but in the body.

There’s also a quiet cynicism in the physics. Wind is indifferent; it doesn’t “mean” anything. By comparing absence to weather, Rabutin implies love is less a moral achievement than a combustible arrangement of temperament, fantasy, and need. If it flares up when you’re apart, maybe it’s devotion. Maybe it’s just the mind, bored and unopposed, feeding the fire it wants to see.

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Roger de Rabutin (April 13, 1618 - April 9, 1693) was a Writer from France.

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