"Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it"
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Then comes the second clause, which refuses the romantic fantasy that longing alone is enough. “Presence strengthens it” shifts love from hunger to habit. Being together supplies the unglamorous materials that make attachment durable: shared routines, witnessed vulnerabilities, small repairs after conflict. Strength isn’t heat; it’s structure. Fuller’s rhetoric works because it grants both states a virtue, making the saying feel less like a warning than a usable rule.
Context matters: as a 17th-century English clergyman living through civil war, exile, and political whiplash, Fuller wrote in an era where separation wasn’t a metaphor; it was policy, plague, travel, imprisonment. Protestant moral writing also prized moderation and discipline. This aphorism has that temperament: it domesticates passion into something governable. Love is neither a constant blaze nor a fragile flower. It’s an edge you hone in absence, and a beam you reinforce in presence.
Quote Details
| Topic | Love |
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| Source | Thomas Fuller , Wikiquote entry (quote commonly attributed to him: "Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it"). |
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"Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/absence-sharpens-love-presence-strengthens-it-2047/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.











