"All changes are more or less tinged with melancholy, for what we are leaving behind is part of ourselves"
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Barr's phrasing is quietly surgical. "Tinged" suggests dye in water, not a blackout curtain. The sadness is rarely total, but it's almost always present, seeping into even good news. Then she slips in the real provocation: "what we are leaving behind is part of ourselves". That clause yanks nostalgia out of the realm of mere sentiment and makes it a question of identity. We grieve not only people, places, and routines, but earlier versions of the self that were shaped by them. The past isn't a museum; it's tissue.
As a late-19th-century novelist, Barr wrote in a world obsessed with movement: industrialization, migration, social mobility, the remaking of domestic life. Her era sold progress loudly while privately absorbing its costs. This sentence reads like a corrective to Victorian optimism and a nod to immigrant and women's experience alike: reinvention often demands severing ties, and severing hurts even when it's necessary.
The subtext is permission. Feeling sad about change doesn't mean you're weak or ungrateful; it means you were actually there, fully, in the life you're leaving.
Quote Details
| Topic | Letting Go |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Barr, Amelia. (2026, January 17). All changes are more or less tinged with melancholy, for what we are leaving behind is part of ourselves. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/all-changes-are-more-or-less-tinged-with-75393/
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Barr, Amelia. "All changes are more or less tinged with melancholy, for what we are leaving behind is part of ourselves." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/all-changes-are-more-or-less-tinged-with-75393/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"All changes are more or less tinged with melancholy, for what we are leaving behind is part of ourselves." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/all-changes-are-more-or-less-tinged-with-75393/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.







