"All discarded lovers should be given a second chance, but with somebody else"
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The sly genius is in the structure. She grants the sentimental impulse - a “second chance” - then refuses the most culturally sanctioned version of it: reconciliation. The twist, “but with somebody else,” is a velvet-gloved rebuke to the myth that closure requires returning to the person who hurt you. West is always negotiating power; here, she reroutes it. The “second chance” isn’t a reward handed back by the original partner, it’s a choice you take elsewhere. That reframing matters: it shifts romance from a court of appeal to a marketplace where you can walk away and try again.
Context sharpens the edge. West built her persona in an era that policed female desire and demanded women perform devotion even when treated as disposable. She answers with a joke that smuggles in autonomy. Laughing at the line is part of the point: humor is her camouflage, but also her weapon. It disarms the sting of rejection while quietly instructing the audience to stop auditioning for someone who already said no.
Quote Details
| Topic | Witty One-Liners |
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| Source | Later attribution: The Wit and Wisdom of Mae West (Mae West, 1967) modern compilation
Evidence: All discarded lovers should be given a second chance, but with somebody else. (Exact page not verifiable from available preview; book length 92 pages). The earliest primary-source attribution I could verify is the 1967 book 'The Wit and Wisdom of Mae West,' credited to Mae West and edited by Joseph Weintraub. Multiple secondary quote references point specifically to this 1967 book, and bibliographic records confirm the book existed in 1967. I could not verify an earlier appearance in a film script, interview, speech, or article from the currently accessible primary-source records. So the safest conclusion is that the earliest verifiable source presently found is this book, but it may still have appeared earlier in an unsearched interview, script, or unpublished routine. Open Library and Internet Archive confirm the 1967 edition and publication details. Goodreads/A-Z Quotes/LibQuotes also consistently cite this book as the source, though they are secondary aids rather than primary evidence. The Internet Archive copy is access-restricted and did not expose the specific page containing the quotation in the searchable lines available. Other candidates (1) Stumbling Blindly Toward Grace (Yvonne Marie Garvey, 2025) compilation95.0% ... Mae West says, “All discarded lovers should be given a second chance, but with somebody else.” Liquid. Lunches. W... |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
West, Mae. (2026, March 10). All discarded lovers should be given a second chance, but with somebody else. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/all-discarded-lovers-should-be-given-a-second-26241/
Chicago Style
West, Mae. "All discarded lovers should be given a second chance, but with somebody else." FixQuotes. March 10, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/all-discarded-lovers-should-be-given-a-second-26241/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"All discarded lovers should be given a second chance, but with somebody else." FixQuotes, 10 Mar. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/all-discarded-lovers-should-be-given-a-second-26241/. Accessed 31 Mar. 2026.








