"All we ask is that we have peace with the whites. We want to hold you by the hand. You are our father"
About this Quote
The hand-holding imagery is disarming by design. It domesticates diplomacy, turning geopolitical conflict into a scene of interpersonal trust. That softness is strategic; it offers whites a flattering role, one they were eager to occupy publicly even as policy and militia action moved in the opposite direction. Then comes the gutting line: "You are our father". On its face, it's deference. In subtext, it's an attempt to exploit the paternalist self-image of U.S. authority: if you insist on being the parent, act like one. It's both an appeal and an indictment.
Context makes the quote feel less like surrender than a survival tactic under a gun. Black Kettle, a Cheyenne leader associated with peace, was trying to protect his people amid escalating settler encroachment, broken treaties, and U.S. military campaigns on the Plains. The tragedy is that the rhetoric assumes a moral listener. History records the opposite: gestures of accommodation did not reliably purchase safety. The quote works because it exposes the cruel paradox of "peace" in a colonial frame: the weaker side must beg for what the stronger side can violate at will.
Quote Details
| Topic | Peace |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Kettle, Black. (2026, January 17). All we ask is that we have peace with the whites. We want to hold you by the hand. You are our father. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/all-we-ask-is-that-we-have-peace-with-the-whites-26686/
Chicago Style
Kettle, Black. "All we ask is that we have peace with the whites. We want to hold you by the hand. You are our father." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/all-we-ask-is-that-we-have-peace-with-the-whites-26686/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"All we ask is that we have peace with the whites. We want to hold you by the hand. You are our father." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/all-we-ask-is-that-we-have-peace-with-the-whites-26686/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.








