"Almost all of our sorrows spring out of our relations with other people"
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The intent isn’t to diagnose sadness as a personal flaw; it’s to reframe it as a structural feature of human contact. Schopenhauer’s worldview treats the self as a bundle of restless wanting, and other people as the loudest amplifiers of that wanting. Relationships don’t merely add complications; they create new forms of vulnerability. What hurts is not just what others do, but what they represent: competition, comparison, rejection, dependency. Social life becomes a marketplace where you’re always priced, judged, and occasionally returned.
The subtext has a cold consolation. If sorrow is socially produced, it’s also socially avoidable - at least in theory. That’s where Schopenhauer’s ascetic streak shows: solitude as damage control, detachment as mental hygiene. Written in a 19th-century Europe obsessed with etiquette, class, and reputation, the quote reads like an early critique of what we’d now call social pressure. It lands today because the stage has expanded: the “relations” now include strangers with opinions, algorithms with incentives, and an endless, anxious audience.
Quote Details
| Topic | Wisdom |
|---|---|
| Source | Verified source: Counsels and Maxims (Arthur Schopenhauer, 1851)
Evidence: To be unsociable is not to care about such people; and to have enough in oneself to dispense with the necessity of their company is a great piece of good fortune; because almost all our sufferings spring from having to do with other people; and that destroys the peace of mind, which, as I have said, comes next after health in the elements of happiness. (Chapter II , Our Relation to Ourselves, Section 9). The wording you provided (“Almost all of our sorrows spring out of our relations with other people”) appears to be a popularized paraphrase/variant. In the primary text (English translation by T. Bailey Saunders), Schopenhauer’s line is “almost all our sufferings spring from having to do with other people,” in Chapter II, Section 9. This English text is commonly published under the title “Counsels and Maxims” (often grouped within Schopenhauer’s Parerga and Paralipomena, first published in 1851). Gutenberg does not reliably provide print page numbers; for page citation you’d need a specific print edition (often available via scanned editions). The same Section 9 also contains the frequently-circulated companion sentence: “There is no more mistaken path to happiness than worldliness, revelry, high life.” Other candidates (1) Gesturing Toward Reality: David Foster Wallace and Philos... (Robert K. Bolger, Scott Korb, 2014) compilation95.0% ... Almost all of our sorrows spring out of our relations with other people . " ( ... fast alle unsere Leiden aus der... |
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