"Although I never publicly defended promiscuity, I never publicly attacked it. I attempted to avoid the subject, in part because I felt, and often still feel, unable to live up to the ideals I really hold"
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The subtext is religious, even when it’s not explicitly theological. “Ideals I really hold” signals a private moral framework with enough seriousness to make failure feel consequential. Yet he refuses to convert that framework into a cudgel. The move is almost Augustinian: I believe in a standard; I also know I’m not consistently capable of it; therefore I’m wary of turning my beliefs into public indictment. It’s a rare bit of intellectual hygiene.
Context matters because Sullivan has long written at the intersection of sex, politics, and Catholic-inflected conscience, especially amid late-20th-century and post-AIDS debates where promiscuity could be framed as liberation, pathology, or market choice. His refusal to “attack” reads as compassion for real human messiness; his refusal to “defend” reads as resistance to branding every impulse as virtue.
What makes it land is its quiet rebuke of the commentator’s primary vice: pretending personal life never leaks into public certainty. Sullivan admits the leak - and chooses, at least here, not to weaponize it.
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| Topic | Honesty & Integrity |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Sullivan, Andrew. (2026, January 16). Although I never publicly defended promiscuity, I never publicly attacked it. I attempted to avoid the subject, in part because I felt, and often still feel, unable to live up to the ideals I really hold. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/although-i-never-publicly-defended-promiscuity-i-138287/
Chicago Style
Sullivan, Andrew. "Although I never publicly defended promiscuity, I never publicly attacked it. I attempted to avoid the subject, in part because I felt, and often still feel, unable to live up to the ideals I really hold." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/although-i-never-publicly-defended-promiscuity-i-138287/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Although I never publicly defended promiscuity, I never publicly attacked it. I attempted to avoid the subject, in part because I felt, and often still feel, unable to live up to the ideals I really hold." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/although-i-never-publicly-defended-promiscuity-i-138287/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.



