"Always be a little kinder than necessary"
About this Quote
The subtext is an implicit diagnosis of social life: “necessary” is a low bar, and most of us treat it like the finish line. Barrie pokes at the transactional ethic that governs everyday interactions - do what’s required, protect your time, conserve your empathy. His advice is to overpay, emotionally. That small “little” is doing heavy work: it’s the difference between politeness and care, between not harming someone and actually noticing them.
Context matters because Barrie’s work, especially in and around Edwardian sensibilities, is steeped in performance - manners, roles, the masks people wear to stay acceptable. A playwright writes for rooms where people misunderstand each other in real time. “Kinder than necessary” reads like stage direction for living: assume you don’t know the full backstory, because you never do. The line anticipates a modern, trauma-aware idea without naming it: everyone you meet is improvising through something. The surplus kindness isn’t naivete; it’s a practical hedge against your own ignorance.
Quote Details
| Topic | Kindness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Barrie, James M. (2026, January 18). Always be a little kinder than necessary. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/always-be-a-little-kinder-than-necessary-6769/
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Barrie, James M. "Always be a little kinder than necessary." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/always-be-a-little-kinder-than-necessary-6769/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Always be a little kinder than necessary." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/always-be-a-little-kinder-than-necessary-6769/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.










