"Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much"
About this Quote
Wilde is masterfully parasitic on Victorian pieties. In a culture that prized Christian magnanimity and public respectability, "forgive" is an impeccably approved verb. Then he appends the acidic rationale - annoyance - revealing the hidden economy of manners: even goodness can be weaponized when reputation is currency. The line also presumes a certain kind of enemy, the petty sort who feeds on grievance and wants you to play your assigned role in the drama. Refusing that script is the real revenge. You don't win by striking back; you win by making the conflict boring.
The subtext is pure Wilde: social life is theater, morality is often performance, and the most devastating move is to remain stylishly uninjured. It's a one-liner with a double bite: it flatters the speaker as above it all while confessing, with a wink, that they're still in it enough to want the enemy irritated.
Context matters here. Wilde's comedies routinely expose how "upright" society runs on hypocrisy, status anxiety, and conversational cruelty. This aphorism distills that worldview into a miniature plot twist: grace as dominance, sanctity as spite.
Quote Details
| Topic | Forgiveness |
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| Featured | This quote was our Quote of the Day on September 11, 2023 |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Wilde, Oscar. (2026, January 11). Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/always-forgive-your-enemies-nothing-annoys-them-13740/
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Wilde, Oscar. "Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much." FixQuotes. January 11, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/always-forgive-your-enemies-nothing-annoys-them-13740/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much." FixQuotes, 11 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/always-forgive-your-enemies-nothing-annoys-them-13740/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.








