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Leadership Quote by Abraham Lincoln

"Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them?"

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Lincoln slips a blade into a benediction. The line sounds like mercy, but it’s also strategy: a redefinition of “destroying” that lets him pursue victory without the moral stain of vengeance. He’s not denying conflict; he’s reframing its endpoint. If an “enemy” is someone committed to your harm, then turning that person into a collaborator annihilates the antagonism itself. The kill is metaphoric, but the result is brutally practical.

The rhetorical power comes from the question. “Am I not…?” isn’t a request for permission; it’s a trapdoor. It forces the listener to accept his premise or defend a more primitive satisfaction: punishment. Lincoln turns reconciliation into a form of strength, daring critics to admit they prefer enemies to peace. The elegance is that it flatters both camps at once: the hardliners get “destruction,” the moralists get “friends.”

Context matters. Lincoln is governing amid civil war and, later, the ugly politics of reunion. His project isn’t simply to win battles but to rebuild legitimacy across a fractured nation where yesterday’s rebels must become tomorrow’s citizens. The subtext is governing math: you can’t stitch a country together by collecting scalps; you need buy-in, institutions, and a future that even the defeated can live inside.

It’s also self-portraiture. Lincoln is signaling that his idealism has teeth. Compassion, in his hands, isn’t softness; it’s a method for removing threats more permanently than coercion can. The line makes reconciliation feel not only noble but unavoidable, the only kind of “destruction” that lasts.

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Later attribution: Future Poets (Rod Martin, 2011) modern compilation
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do not feel my own sorrows much more keenly than i do yours when i know of them
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Lincoln, Abraham. (2026, February 7). Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them? FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/am-i-not-destroying-my-enemies-when-i-make-24757/

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Lincoln, Abraham. "Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them?" FixQuotes. February 7, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/am-i-not-destroying-my-enemies-when-i-make-24757/.

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"Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them?" FixQuotes, 7 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/am-i-not-destroying-my-enemies-when-i-make-24757/. Accessed 16 Feb. 2026.

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Abraham Lincoln

Abraham Lincoln (February 12, 1809 - April 15, 1865) was a President from USA.

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