"An enemy to whom you show kindness becomes your friend, excepting lust, the indulgence of which increases its enmity"
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Then Saadi yanks the floor out from under the reader with the exception: lust. The subtext is almost clinical. Some antagonists are interpersonal and negotiable; others are appetites that feed on permission. Treat lust like a rival you can charm, and it doesn’t thaw - it recruits. Indulgence doesn’t resolve the conflict, it escalates it, because desire is not a party across the table but a claimant inside the house. Where kindness can convert a human opponent through conscience, it can’t bargain with a compulsion that lacks one.
Context matters: Saadi wrote for courts and classrooms, for readers navigating power, temptation, and self-governance. The couplet functions like a miniature ethics lesson: be generous outwardly, be severe inwardly. It’s also a subtle warning against misapplying spiritual language to sensual craving - calling indulgence “kindness” is just a way to launder weakness into virtue. The craft is in the pivot: one aphorism, two enemies, and a hard boundary between diplomacy and discipline.
Quote Details
| Topic | Kindness |
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| Source | Verified source: The Dial (Jan. 1844): "Ethnical Scriptures" extracts (Saadi, 1844)
Evidence: Any foe whom you treat courteously will become a friend, excepting lust; which, the more civilly you use it, will grow the more perverse. (null). This is a primary-source publication in the sense that it is an identifiable, dated publication containing the line and explicitly labeling it as “FROM THE GULISTAN OF SAADI.” However, it is not Saadi’s original Persian text; it is an English rendering printed in The Dial (Vol. IV, No. III, Jan. 1844). The modern wording you supplied (“An enemy to whom you show kindness becomes your friend, excepting lust, the indulgence of which increases its enmity”) appears to be a later paraphrase/variant of this older English translation. I did not find (in this search pass) a verifiable scan/page-cited edition of Saadi’s Gulistan containing the exact modern English wording; to verify the earliest appearance in English, you would next want to locate the specific earlier English translation of Gulistan that The Dial excerpted (the page above does not name the Gulistan translator). Other candidates (1) The New Dictionary of Thoughts (Tryon Edwards, 2015) compilation94.7% ... An enemy to whom you show kindness becomes your friend, excepting lust, the indulgence of which increases its enm... |
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"An enemy to whom you show kindness becomes your friend, excepting lust, the indulgence of which increases its enmity." FixQuotes, 18 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/an-enemy-to-whom-you-show-kindness-becomes-your-129128/. Accessed 20 Feb. 2026.












