"And I have always told the patients when I talk to them. When they come around and say, "What will you have to drink? Oh that's right you don't drink." Just speak up and say, 'Of course I drink. But I just don't drink alcohol.'"
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The subtext is about power and shame. Addiction thrives in secrecy; recovery often gets policed by etiquette. People want to be “polite,” so they tiptoe around alcohol, as if naming it might trigger relapse or expose discomfort. Ford flips the burden back onto the room. If someone assumes you “don’t drink,” you don’t have to accept the role of the fragile exception. You can correct them with calm certainty, signaling that you’re not broken, you’re choosing.
Context matters: Ford wasn’t just a private citizen trading coping tips. As First Lady, she helped drag alcoholism and dependency into daylight, then institutionalized that candor through the Betty Ford Center. Her phrasing carries that cultural project in miniature: normalize the conversation, make recovery speakable, and let a person’s identity be larger than their diagnosis. It’s stigma reduction disguised as good manners.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Ford, Betty. (2026, January 15). And I have always told the patients when I talk to them. When they come around and say, "What will you have to drink? Oh that's right you don't drink." Just speak up and say, 'Of course I drink. But I just don't drink alcohol.'. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/and-i-have-always-told-the-patients-when-i-talk-23333/
Chicago Style
Ford, Betty. "And I have always told the patients when I talk to them. When they come around and say, "What will you have to drink? Oh that's right you don't drink." Just speak up and say, 'Of course I drink. But I just don't drink alcohol.'." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/and-i-have-always-told-the-patients-when-i-talk-23333/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"And I have always told the patients when I talk to them. When they come around and say, "What will you have to drink? Oh that's right you don't drink." Just speak up and say, 'Of course I drink. But I just don't drink alcohol.'." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/and-i-have-always-told-the-patients-when-i-talk-23333/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.







