"And I think in your 40s, you land a little bit, physically and mentally, you arrive at a place where you feel you've learned some stuff. Having children at that point meant I had something very useful to do for the next 20 years"
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Then he swerves into a deliberately unromantic description of parenthood: “something very useful to do.” Useful is a working word. It turns children from lifestyle accessory into purpose, a long-term task with weight and deadlines. The subtext is almost anti-sentimental: love is assumed, but it’s not the headline. What he’s really selling is direction. At an age when career momentum can plateau or curdle into anxiety, parenting becomes an organizing principle, a project big enough to absorb ego.
The “next 20 years” line lands like a self-aware contract. Strong isn’t pretending parenting is a side quest; he’s naming the time horizon, the way kids restructure your calendar, your ambition, your identity. In a culture obsessed with optimization, he makes a case for committing to something that can’t be hacked or sped up. The intent feels less like advice than a personal truth: maturity isn’t just what you know by 40, it’s what you decide to be responsible for.
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| Topic | Parenting |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Strong, Mark. (2026, January 16). And I think in your 40s, you land a little bit, physically and mentally, you arrive at a place where you feel you've learned some stuff. Having children at that point meant I had something very useful to do for the next 20 years. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/and-i-think-in-your-40s-you-land-a-little-bit-127717/
Chicago Style
Strong, Mark. "And I think in your 40s, you land a little bit, physically and mentally, you arrive at a place where you feel you've learned some stuff. Having children at that point meant I had something very useful to do for the next 20 years." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/and-i-think-in-your-40s-you-land-a-little-bit-127717/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"And I think in your 40s, you land a little bit, physically and mentally, you arrive at a place where you feel you've learned some stuff. Having children at that point meant I had something very useful to do for the next 20 years." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/and-i-think-in-your-40s-you-land-a-little-bit-127717/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.




