"And now, dear sister, I must leave this house or the retreating army will make me a prisoner in it by filling up the road I am directed to take"
About this Quote
The subtext is sharper than the sentence’s calm. A First Lady isn’t supposed to sound like a field commander, but Madison does, mapping power onto movement and timing. She’s not just escaping; she’s managing the optics and the chain of communication, addressing her sister to preserve composure and normalcy while Washington collapses around her. The phrase “I am directed to take” hints at the limits of her agency - someone has given orders - but her control returns in the next breath: she understands the terrain and the consequences better than the men bottlenecking the route.
Context matters: this is the War of 1812, with the British closing in on the capital. The White House is both home and symbol. Her departure isn’t merely personal safety; it’s about not letting the nation’s most visible domestic space become a cage. The sentence is a small masterclass in how women in political life practiced authority when they weren’t officially allowed to have any.
Quote Details
| Topic | Sister |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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Citation Formats
APA Style (7th ed.)
Madison, Dolley. (2026, January 16). And now, dear sister, I must leave this house or the retreating army will make me a prisoner in it by filling up the road I am directed to take. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/and-now-dear-sister-i-must-leave-this-house-or-100106/
Chicago Style
Madison, Dolley. "And now, dear sister, I must leave this house or the retreating army will make me a prisoner in it by filling up the road I am directed to take." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/and-now-dear-sister-i-must-leave-this-house-or-100106/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"And now, dear sister, I must leave this house or the retreating army will make me a prisoner in it by filling up the road I am directed to take." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/and-now-dear-sister-i-must-leave-this-house-or-100106/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.






