"And we had our own laws. I mean, I wrote them. And we had our own customs, and traditions, and proprieties"
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The list that follows - “customs, and traditions, and proprieties” - is doing heavy work. It’s not nostalgia; it’s scaffolding. Customs create predictability. Traditions give suffering a narrative arc (you endure because others endured). “Proprieties” sounds almost comically civilized in a cell, which is exactly the point: manners become a weapon. Insisting on standards - how you communicate, how you resist, how you treat the weak link - is a way of refusing the captor’s preferred story that you are merely broken bodies.
Context matters: Stockdale wasn’t describing comfort; he was describing a regime of self-governance under coercion, where “laws” might include enforced silence, coded taps, collective discipline, even punishment. The subtext is ethical and unsentimental: freedom can shrink to a few choices, but those choices can still be structured into a culture. He’s naming the paradox of resilience - that dignity often survives not through individual grit, but through rules someone is willing to write and everyone is willing to live by.
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| Topic | Justice |
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Stockdale, James. (2026, January 15). And we had our own laws. I mean, I wrote them. And we had our own customs, and traditions, and proprieties. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/and-we-had-our-own-laws-i-mean-i-wrote-them-and-106470/
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"And we had our own laws. I mean, I wrote them. And we had our own customs, and traditions, and proprieties." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/and-we-had-our-own-laws-i-mean-i-wrote-them-and-106470/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.







