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Marriage Quote by Oliver Stone

"Anybody who's been through a divorce will tell you that at one point, they've thought murder. The line between thinking murder and doing murder isn't that major"

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Stone’s line lands like a grenade because it refuses the polite fiction that civilized people stay civilized under pressure. He starts with a sly appeal to “anybody” who’s lived through divorce, treating violent fantasy as a guilty open secret rather than a pathology. That’s not a confession so much as a dare: if you’ve been there, you recognize the spike of rage; if you haven’t, you’re forced to imagine it. The shock isn’t the word “murder” twice, it’s the casualness - murder as a thought you “at one point” have, like a bad song stuck in your head.

The subtext is pure Oliver Stone: America’s self-image is a thin veneer, and institutions we call “private” are where brutality incubates. Divorce becomes a miniature war zone - assets, custody, reputation - and Stone frames the mind as a battlefield where the fantasy of annihilating the other person is a lurid but comprehensible escalation. When he says the line between thinking and doing “isn’t that major,” he’s not offering a statistic; he’s collapsing moral distance to expose how quickly grievance can recruit action when pride, humiliation, and perceived betrayal stack up.

Context matters: Stone built a career on stories where personal breakdown mirrors systemic violence (Natural Born Killers, Nixon, Platoon). This quote fits his larger project of puncturing comforting narratives. It’s also risky in a way that feels intentional: by overstating the proximity between thought and deed, he forces a cultural conversation about rage, masculinity, and the legal theater of divorce - and about how easily we excuse the fantasy while insisting we’d never cross the threshold.

Quote Details

TopicDivorce
Source
Verified source: The New Yorker: The Last Wild Man (Oliver Stone, 1994)
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Anybody who’s been through a divorce will tell you that at one point in their life they’ve thought murder. No one’s innocent. The line between thinking murder and doing murder isn’t that major. (Issue dated August 8, 1994; exact page not verified from web text). This appears in the New Yorker profile of Oliver Stone, “The Last Wild Man,” published August 8, 1994. In the article, Stone is speaking in his office during discussion of the O.J. Simpson case and his own divorce. The wording commonly circulated online omits part of the original sentence and slightly alters pronouns. Based on the evidence found, this article is the earliest primary-source publication located for the quote. I did not verify an earlier book, speech, or interview containing the same wording.
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A Miscellany of Murder (The Monday Murder Club, 2011) compilation97.8%
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Stone, Oliver. (2026, March 7). Anybody who's been through a divorce will tell you that at one point, they've thought murder. The line between thinking murder and doing murder isn't that major. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/anybody-whos-been-through-a-divorce-will-tell-you-160655/

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Stone, Oliver. "Anybody who's been through a divorce will tell you that at one point, they've thought murder. The line between thinking murder and doing murder isn't that major." FixQuotes. March 7, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/anybody-whos-been-through-a-divorce-will-tell-you-160655/.

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"Anybody who's been through a divorce will tell you that at one point, they've thought murder. The line between thinking murder and doing murder isn't that major." FixQuotes, 7 Mar. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/anybody-whos-been-through-a-divorce-will-tell-you-160655/. Accessed 29 Mar. 2026.

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