"As a general rule, people disappoint you as you know them"
About this Quote
The sting is in "as you know them". Mitchell isn’t claiming people are inherently bad; she’s pointing to the corrosive effect of proximity. At a distance, we project ideals. Up close, we encounter appetite, inconsistency, cowardice, vanity - especially in systems where reputations are curated and women are tolerated only if they’re useful and unobtrusive. The subtext is social: intimacy reveals not just individual flaws but the small betrayals people make to stay safe inside hierarchy.
There’s also self-protection here. For a woman whose credibility depended on being unimpeachably rational, disappointment becomes a disciplined posture: expect less, and you won’t be derailed by the gap between public virtue and private behavior. It’s not a plea for isolation so much as a warning against naïveté. The quote works because it turns emotional experience into a lawlike observation, letting Mitchell sound both worldly and unsentimental - a scientist’s skepticism repurposed for human nature.
Quote Details
| Topic | Betrayal |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Mitchell, Maria. (2026, January 16). As a general rule, people disappoint you as you know them. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/as-a-general-rule-people-disappoint-you-as-you-104826/
Chicago Style
Mitchell, Maria. "As a general rule, people disappoint you as you know them." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/as-a-general-rule-people-disappoint-you-as-you-104826/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"As a general rule, people disappoint you as you know them." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/as-a-general-rule-people-disappoint-you-as-you-104826/. Accessed 6 Feb. 2026.








