"As much as it hurts, I would rather miss someone than hit someone"
About this Quote
The intent feels less like sentimental self-help than a hard boundary spoken by someone who knows what they're capable of. "As much as it hurts" admits the temptation - the way grief and rejection can curdle into anger, how the body wants a release. The subtext is impulse control under pressure: the speaker is choosing restraint not because it feels good, but because the alternative would mark them as the kind of person who turns loss into violence.
As a novelist, Celio is likely writing into scenes of breakup, estrangement, addiction, or masculine volatility - situations where the culturally scripted response is to "do something" rather than sit with the void. The line argues for a quieter courage: accepting the humiliations of missing, the unglamorous work of letting absence hurt, instead of trying to erase that hurt by making someone else pay for it. It turns vulnerability into ethics.
Quote Details
| Topic | Kindness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Celio, Brian. (2026, January 16). As much as it hurts, I would rather miss someone than hit someone. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/as-much-as-it-hurts-i-would-rather-miss-someone-132007/
Chicago Style
Celio, Brian. "As much as it hurts, I would rather miss someone than hit someone." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/as-much-as-it-hurts-i-would-rather-miss-someone-132007/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"As much as it hurts, I would rather miss someone than hit someone." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/as-much-as-it-hurts-i-would-rather-miss-someone-132007/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.






