"Assumptions are the termites of relationships"
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The line also smuggles in accountability. An assumption isn’t an outside force; it’s something you generate to save time, avoid discomfort, or protect ego. It feels efficient in the moment: don’t ask, just conclude. Winkler frames that shortcut as corrosive. You don’t just misread your partner; you start building a whole internal architecture around the misread, then act as if it’s evidence. Resentment becomes “common sense.” Distance becomes “proof.”
Context matters here: coming from an actor known for warmth and comedic timing, the metaphor feels like advice from someone who’s watched miscommunication play out in slow motion - on sets, in public narratives, in long careers where people project motives onto you. It’s accessible, almost homespun, but pointed: if you want sturdier intimacy, do the unglamorous maintenance. Ask. Clarify. Inspect the quiet corners before the damage becomes structural.
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Winkler, Henry. (2026, January 16). Assumptions are the termites of relationships. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/assumptions-are-the-termites-of-relationships-127157/
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Winkler, Henry. "Assumptions are the termites of relationships." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/assumptions-are-the-termites-of-relationships-127157/.
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"Assumptions are the termites of relationships." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/assumptions-are-the-termites-of-relationships-127157/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.




