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Parenting & Family Quote by Gary Oldman

"At 23 it was all about acting. Today it's getting my kids to school, making sure that they've done their homework. I'm in my fifties, and I'm turning into a square. I saw a kid walk into a restaurant the other day and his belt was below his backside. I would have turned him away"

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Aging, in Gary Oldman’s telling, isn’t a slow fade into irrelevance; it’s a hard pivot in what you’re willing to care about. He frames his twenties as monomaniacal “acting” devotion, then snaps to the unglamorous logistics of parenthood: school runs, homework checks, the daily management work that doesn’t read as art but quietly reorganizes a life. The joke is in the self-indictment: “turning into a square” isn’t a tragedy, it’s an admission that stability can feel like betrayal when your identity was built on intensity, risk, and being the interesting person in the room.

Oldman’s real target, though, is the cultural whiplash between youth codes and adult authority. The kid with the belt “below his backside” isn’t just a fashion complaint; it’s a cameo of generational misunderstanding, the moment you realize you’ve crossed from participant to gatekeeper. “I would have turned him away” is deliberately petty, the kind of authoritarian impulse you hear in your own head and immediately recognize as proof that time has done its work. It’s funny because it’s specific, and specific is where self-awareness lives.

Coming from an actor famous for volatility and transformation, the line doubles as brand-management: the wildness has been domesticated, not extinguished. He’s not renouncing youth so much as confessing that adulthood comes with an unexpected role: the person who enforces the dress code, even when you once hated dress codes.

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Gary Oldman (born March 21, 1958) is a Actor from England.

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