"At a family's most difficult time, I want to make sure at a minimum that they have the very basic of comforts: the ability to grieve their loss privately and the knowledge that their country is grateful for their loved one's sacrifice and service"
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The two “basics” he chooses are telling. First: privacy. That’s a subtle rebuke of the modern spectacle of death—camera crews on lawns, viral outrage, political opportunists harvesting pain for footage. It also nods to a state power that can feel invasive even when well-intentioned: notifications, investigations, ceremonies, paperwork. Second: gratitude. Not compensation, not policy, not accountability—gratitude, the safest civic currency. It’s emotionally potent and politically versatile, a way to honor service without reopening the argument about whether a given war, mission, or decision was wise.
The subtext is a balancing act between genuine compassion and the rhetorical shield of patriotism. By centering “their country is grateful,” Reichert turns private loss into national meaning, offering families a narrative that can steady them—while also reaffirming a civic myth that keeps the machinery of service and sacrifice socially acceptable. It works because it promises control over the one thing grief always steals: a sense of agency.
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Reichert, Dave. (2026, January 17). At a family's most difficult time, I want to make sure at a minimum that they have the very basic of comforts: the ability to grieve their loss privately and the knowledge that their country is grateful for their loved one's sacrifice and service. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/at-a-familys-most-difficult-time-i-want-to-make-57667/
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Reichert, Dave. "At a family's most difficult time, I want to make sure at a minimum that they have the very basic of comforts: the ability to grieve their loss privately and the knowledge that their country is grateful for their loved one's sacrifice and service." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/at-a-familys-most-difficult-time-i-want-to-make-57667/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"At a family's most difficult time, I want to make sure at a minimum that they have the very basic of comforts: the ability to grieve their loss privately and the knowledge that their country is grateful for their loved one's sacrifice and service." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/at-a-familys-most-difficult-time-i-want-to-make-57667/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.




