"At first I was a bit indignant about it, and then I realised, 'No, that's what people want, so that's what is given.' But it's not in your control. It's just what happens to you, and that's what's frightening"
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The blunt passive voice is the point: “so that’s what is given.” Not chosen, not crafted - dispensed. Ormond isn’t describing a single bad review or casting decision; she’s naming the system that turns a person into a product category. Her “realised” isn’t triumphal self-knowledge. It’s surrender with eyes open, the kind that arrives when you’ve seen how narrative beats talent. You can be brilliant, but if the market wants a type, the type wins.
The most revealing turn is the shift from “people” to “you.” It’s intimate, almost confessional, and it widens the target: this isn’t just an actress talking about fame; it’s about what it feels like to be acted upon. “It’s not in your control” lands like a diagnosis. The fear isn’t the criticism. It’s the helplessness - the sense that identity can be assigned, traded, and repeated back to you until it becomes the only version that counts.
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| Topic | Free Will & Fate |
|---|---|
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Ormond, Julia. (n.d.). At first I was a bit indignant about it, and then I realised, 'No, that's what people want, so that's what is given.' But it's not in your control. It's just what happens to you, and that's what's frightening. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/at-first-i-was-a-bit-indignant-about-it-and-then-118277/
Chicago Style
Ormond, Julia. "At first I was a bit indignant about it, and then I realised, 'No, that's what people want, so that's what is given.' But it's not in your control. It's just what happens to you, and that's what's frightening." FixQuotes. Accessed February 3, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/at-first-i-was-a-bit-indignant-about-it-and-then-118277/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"At first I was a bit indignant about it, and then I realised, 'No, that's what people want, so that's what is given.' But it's not in your control. It's just what happens to you, and that's what's frightening." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/at-first-i-was-a-bit-indignant-about-it-and-then-118277/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.





