"At some point, you've got to realize, you're either a leading man or you're not"
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The wording does a lot of work. “At some point” is the merciful part - it grants a runway for ambition and reinvention. Then comes the binary: “either…or you’re not.” No middle category, no “character actor,” no “indispensable sideman,” no “cult favorite.” That bluntness is the subtext. The system ranks people, and the ranking becomes a lifestyle, a paycheck, a kind of public permission to take up space.
“Leading man” also smuggles in a dated, gendered idea of center stage: the person the camera forgives, the one the narrative bends around. Hovis’s intent isn’t necessarily to endorse that hierarchy; it’s to name it. The cultural sting is that recognizing your lane can be both liberating and devastating - a way to stop chasing validation, or a way of making peace with never being the poster.
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Hovis, Larry. (2026, January 15). At some point, you've got to realize, you're either a leading man or you're not. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/at-some-point-youve-got-to-realize-youre-either-a-170695/
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Hovis, Larry. "At some point, you've got to realize, you're either a leading man or you're not." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/at-some-point-youve-got-to-realize-youre-either-a-170695/.
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"At some point, you've got to realize, you're either a leading man or you're not." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/at-some-point-youve-got-to-realize-youre-either-a-170695/. Accessed 9 Feb. 2026.






