"Back then I didn't think a woman like that, or a relationship like that, could exist with complete freedom and no jealousy or possessiveness. I thought it sounded too good to be true and I was certainly convinced it wasn't the life for me!"
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The phrasing does a lot of cultural work. “A woman like that” isn’t just an individual; it’s an archetype: the woman who can love without clinging, who doesn’t need to police desire to feel safe. Kristel frames that figure as almost mythical, which hints at how gender expectations script jealousy as proof of caring, and how women in particular are taught to measure worth through exclusivity. The quote’s real subject is not a relationship model but a mindset shaped by romantic ideology.
Context matters because Kristel is inseparable from a 1970s European erotic cinema moment that marketed sexual freedom as aesthetic, even glamorous, while often leaving the messier emotional politics offscreen. Her “too good to be true” isn’t prudishness; it’s skepticism born from lived complexity. The final admission - “certainly convinced it wasn’t the life for me” - reads like self-protection, a way of choosing constraint over disappointment. It’s a memory of the stories we tell ourselves so we don’t have to risk wanting more.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Kristel, Sylvia. (2026, January 15). Back then I didn't think a woman like that, or a relationship like that, could exist with complete freedom and no jealousy or possessiveness. I thought it sounded too good to be true and I was certainly convinced it wasn't the life for me! FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/back-then-i-didnt-think-a-woman-like-that-or-a-165872/
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Kristel, Sylvia. "Back then I didn't think a woman like that, or a relationship like that, could exist with complete freedom and no jealousy or possessiveness. I thought it sounded too good to be true and I was certainly convinced it wasn't the life for me!" FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/back-then-i-didnt-think-a-woman-like-that-or-a-165872/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Back then I didn't think a woman like that, or a relationship like that, could exist with complete freedom and no jealousy or possessiveness. I thought it sounded too good to be true and I was certainly convinced it wasn't the life for me!" FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/back-then-i-didnt-think-a-woman-like-that-or-a-165872/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.






