"Be loving and kind. Call everyone to your table of kindness"
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The line reads like a benediction, but it’s also a piece of strategy: kindness as something you practice deliberately, not a mood you wait to feel. “Be loving and kind” opens with imperatives that assume agency. You don’t need perfect conditions or perfect people; you need a choice. Then Ma Jaya pivots to a more vivid image: “Call everyone to your table of kindness.” The table isn’t a metaphor picked for prettiness. It’s social architecture. A table implies hosting, nourishment, and the everyday politics of who gets invited, who gets ignored, who’s made to sit at the edge.
“Call” matters here, too. It suggests active outreach rather than passive tolerance. The subtext is that exclusion happens by default; inclusion requires effort. And “everyone” is the line’s moral dare. Not “those who deserve it,” not “your people,” not “when it’s safe.” As a teacher, Ma Jaya is speaking to the way communities are built in real time: in classrooms, sanghas, group houses, families, workplaces. In those spaces, kindness isn’t just niceness; it’s a governing principle that can de-escalate conflict, interrupt hierarchies, and make room for the awkward, the new, the difficult.
There’s a gentle provocation underneath the softness: if your kindness has guest-list rules, it’s probably not kindness yet. The “table” asks you to notice your boundaries, then widen them - not as self-erasure, but as a disciplined form of leadership.
“Call” matters here, too. It suggests active outreach rather than passive tolerance. The subtext is that exclusion happens by default; inclusion requires effort. And “everyone” is the line’s moral dare. Not “those who deserve it,” not “your people,” not “when it’s safe.” As a teacher, Ma Jaya is speaking to the way communities are built in real time: in classrooms, sanghas, group houses, families, workplaces. In those spaces, kindness isn’t just niceness; it’s a governing principle that can de-escalate conflict, interrupt hierarchies, and make room for the awkward, the new, the difficult.
There’s a gentle provocation underneath the softness: if your kindness has guest-list rules, it’s probably not kindness yet. The “table” asks you to notice your boundaries, then widen them - not as self-erasure, but as a disciplined form of leadership.
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| Topic | Kindness |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
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