"Be modest, be respectful of others, try to understand"
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“Be respectful of others” looks soft until you hear the implied warning: disrespect is a shortcut to stalemate. Brahimi spent decades around conflicts where humiliation wasn’t a side effect but a fuel source. Respect becomes a way to lower the temperature, to let an opponent climb down without losing face, to make compromise politically survivable.
Then he lands on the real engine: “try to understand.” Not “agree,” not “forgive,” not “sympathize” - understand. The phrasing suggests effort, not enlightenment: you try because it’s hard, because you’d rather not, because your instincts are tribal. Subtext: most disasters in politics aren’t caused by evil masterminds; they’re caused by people refusing to model how the other side experiences the world.
Context matters: Brahimi’s career sits in the late-20th and early-21st century churn of civil wars, post-colonial state-building, and international interventions that repeatedly mistook power for clarity. His sentence is a quiet rebuke to the technocratic habit of “solving” societies from the outside. It’s also a code of conduct for anyone with influence: if you can’t manage your ego, you’ll misread everyone else’s reality - and your leverage will turn into collateral damage.
Quote Details
| Topic | Respect |
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| Source | Later attribution: Good Leader/Bad Leader (Martyn Richard Jones, 2025) modern compilationID: ULJwEQAAQBAJ
Evidence:
... Be modest , be respectful of others , try to understand . Lakhdar Brahimi A true leader should respect the time and opinions of others . A true leader should value the time and contributions of all team , group and community members ... |
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"Be modest, be respectful of others, try to understand." FixQuotes, 13 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-modest-be-respectful-of-others-try-to-156534/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.









