"Be nice to the whites, they need you to rediscover their humanity"
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The provocation is in the pronouns. "The whites" is blunt, almost impolite in its generality, and "they need you" flips the usual hierarchy. Power is recast as dependence: the dominant group, having normalized cruelty, is portrayed as the one in moral deficit. "Rediscover their humanity" implies something chilling - that humanity can be misplaced, misfiled, or actively surrendered when a system like apartheid trains people to see others as less-than. Tutu's theology of ubuntu sits underneath this: your personhood is bound up with mine, even when you're the one denying it.
There's also a hard edge hiding inside the softness of "be nice". It's pastoral language doing political work, not naivete. Tutu isn't excusing white brutality; he's indicting it as self-mutilation, a loss of soul that cannot be repaired by courts alone. The line asks the marginalized to claim the moral high ground, but it also exposes the cost of that expectation. In a country hungry for peace, he frames generosity not as a favor to white comfort, but as a weapon against dehumanization itself.
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Tutu, Desmond. (2026, January 17). Be nice to the whites, they need you to rediscover their humanity. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-nice-to-the-whites-they-need-you-to-rediscover-30793/
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"Be nice to the whites, they need you to rediscover their humanity." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-nice-to-the-whites-they-need-you-to-rediscover-30793/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2026.







