"Be right, and then be easy to live with, if possible, but in that order"
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The genius (and the danger) is in the little clause “if possible.” It concedes what everyone knows but rarely admits: righteousness can make a person insufferable. The quote doesn’t deny that tension; it manages it. By placing “easy to live with” second, Benson gives the prickly truth-teller an alibi (“I’m doing what’s right”), while still issuing a behavioral check (“try not to make everyone miserable”). It’s a commandment with customer service.
Subtextually, it’s also a warning against a very modern temptation: sanding down beliefs into vibes for the sake of harmony. Benson’s ordering rejects the idea that peace is the highest good. That tracks with mid-century conservatism and Cold War moral rhetoric, where ambiguity looked like weakness and compromise could feel like complicity.
Yet the line also exposes an unresolved question: who gets to define “right”? When “right” is treated as settled, interpersonal kindness becomes optional - a garnish. Read generously, it’s integrity first, temperament second. Read critically, it’s permission to be correct and cruel, with politeness framed as a nice-to-have rather than part of the moral package.
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| Topic | Honesty & Integrity |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Benson, Ezra Taft. (2026, January 16). Be right, and then be easy to live with, if possible, but in that order. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-right-and-then-be-easy-to-live-with-if-111211/
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Benson, Ezra Taft. "Be right, and then be easy to live with, if possible, but in that order." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-right-and-then-be-easy-to-live-with-if-111211/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Be right, and then be easy to live with, if possible, but in that order." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-right-and-then-be-easy-to-live-with-if-111211/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.








