"Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing"
About this Quote
The sentence is engineered for practical impact. The parallel structure ("slow... slower") makes loyalty feel like a ratchet: once you click into commitment, backing out should take even more friction. Franklin’s subtext is about trust as infrastructure. Societies don’t run on abstract ideals; they run on predictable people. A stable friend network becomes a stable public sphere, and instability looks less like self-actualization than unreliability.
There’s also a quiet warning to the ambitious. Franklin moved through salons, assemblies, print shops, and diplomatic courts; he knew how quickly social circles can turn into factions. The line discourages the opportunist’s habit of trading relationships for advantage, because constant switching signals that you are the common denominator in every conflict.
It’s not sentimental loyalty for loyalty’s sake. It’s an argument that friendship, handled like a serious contract, produces the kind of long-term trust a republic depends on. In Franklin’s world, being "slow" isn’t passive; it’s strategic restraint dressed up as plainspoken wisdom.
Quote Details
| Topic | Friendship |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Franklin, Benjamin. (2026, January 17). Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-slow-in-choosing-a-friend-slower-in-changing-25469/
Chicago Style
Franklin, Benjamin. "Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-slow-in-choosing-a-friend-slower-in-changing-25469/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-slow-in-choosing-a-friend-slower-in-changing-25469/. Accessed 22 Feb. 2026.






