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"Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm and constant"

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Friendship, for Socrates, isn’t a vibe; it’s a moral commitment with consequences. The line has the clean, almost legal cadence of advice that assumes the stakes are high: enter slowly, then don’t wriggle out when it gets inconvenient. It’s less about being picky for status and more about refusing the modern temptation to treat relationships as disposable, revocable subscriptions.

The first clause does something sly. “Be slow” signals that friendship is an ethical test, not a social perk. In the Socratic world, intimacy isn’t neutral: the people you let close shape your habits, your reasoning, your courage. Choose badly and you don’t just suffer awkward dinners; you risk deforming your character. Caution, then, isn’t coldness. It’s discernment, the same discipline Socrates applies to ideas: examine before you assent.

Then the pivot: “when thou art in.” The phrasing implies a threshold, almost an initiation. Once crossed, friendship becomes a duty. “Firm and constant” isn’t romantic flourish; it’s an argument against opportunism. It asks you to be the kind of person who doesn’t abandon others at the first sign of cost, scandal, or boredom. Read against the context of Socrates’ own story - a man who prized integrity over comfort and accepted death rather than betray his principles - the subtext sharpens: loyalty is a practice of steadiness under pressure.

The quote works because it holds two tensions in one tight sentence: skepticism about easy bonds, and an almost severe ideal of fidelity once the bond exists. It’s an antidote to both naive trust and cynical networking.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Socrates. (2026, January 14). Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm and constant. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-slow-to-fall-into-friendship-but-when-thou-art-24969/

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Socrates. "Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm and constant." FixQuotes. January 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-slow-to-fall-into-friendship-but-when-thou-art-24969/.

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"Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm and constant." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-slow-to-fall-into-friendship-but-when-thou-art-24969/. Accessed 9 Feb. 2026.

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Socrates (469 BC - 399 BC) was a Philosopher from Greece.

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